The Truth Is Not Delicate #5 – Crying

It was difficult for me to deal with other people’s emotions because I didn’t know how to deal with my own in a healthy way. I think it bothered me when my children cried when they were sad, hurt, or afraid because it felt like I was like looking into a mirror and seeing something I wasn’t willing to do myself.

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The Truth Is Not Delicate #3 – Compromise

One of the things I learned when I was a child was that whenever my abuser came to me I didn’t have much of a voice or vocabulary like “no” or “stop it.” I just felt like I had to give up and give in because I didn’t have any power. In my mind my feelings didn’t matter. I was invisible.

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The Truth Is Not Delicate #2 – Yelling

In the series called The Truth Is Not Delicate I describe a list of unhealthy thoughts and/or behaviors about what I may have taught my daughters as they grew up in a home with a young mom (me) involved in an abusive marriage and who was just discovering that she was sexually abused as a child.

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